Wake Up Sid!!

Helllooo ..

Today I saw WUS Finally!!! I thought it would be a normal film like any other spoiled brat finding his identity type movie. But I was wrong..I mean it is abt that but shown differently.The flow of the movie was awesome , looked really natural. The background score and the music was really good.Read many reviews abt the movie and many people said its a good movie but me being me din't believe and finally with much effort having nothing to do thought of giving it a try and happy I have seen it .Predictible storyline but it has something more which clicked. Well if there are people like me still haven't seen the movie go watch it, u will enjoy :)

Love iktara song...loved the song before watching the movie but now love it much more....

Goonjasa koi iktara iktara....lala lalaa....

Papa, don’t preach!

Just read it in TOI and thought of sharing with everybody.

Papa, don’t preach!
You may be a superachiever, but do you look back and wonder if Dad’s approving?
Vinita Dawra Nangia
TIMES NEWS NETWORK


DURING a casual chat a colleague mentioned he had been an average student whose disillusioned father had at best expected him to man a grocery store. Today, as he handles a coveted position with The Times of India, he reveals how in his mind he is still trying to prove his worth to his father all the time.
Another colleague, whose bureaucrat father wanted him to follow in his footsteps, confesses he spent the first few years of his professional life trying to prove to his father how a job in the private sector has its own charms, even if not the security of a government job.
A friend who works with a private sector bank actually took a break from his job to take up teaching assignments in a couple of reputed private institutes. Later, he admitted this was nothing but a subconscious attempt to prove to his father that even though he couldn’t get into an IIT, he could still teach management students!
Those who have stopped trying to prove their worth to Daddy are people who feel they have gone beyond expectations and whose parents have acknowledged that in so many words. Apart from that, deep down each one of us is more often than not trying to prove ourselves to our parents.
If so many of us grow up struggling with our parents’ notions of us, perceived or real, it becomes incumbent on parents to be extremely careful how they project their expectations and desires onto children. There was a time when it was the most natural thing for parents to expect children to fulfil their own unachieved desires or to even follow in their footsteps. I can understand why a businessman would expect his children to grow up and take over the business. But I cannot understand why a politician would want his child to be a politician, a doctor expect a child to grow up into his profession, or a bureaucrat insist his child appear for the Civil Services exams at least once!
I even know a child who attended his father’s college briefly just to please his dad, before going on to the institute he really wanted to study at! While at one level, this may seem sweet and rather the act of an ideal son, can you imagine the pressure on the poor child?
Why are we in the habit of foisting the burden of our unfulfilled desires onto the next generation? Why do we feel obliged to decide for our children what we want them to do or be in life? In doing so, we assume that our child is our mirror image and wants exactly what we want of life. Or, worse still, when choices and desires obviously clash, we choose to believe we know better than our children!
The many factors apart from genes that go into the making of a person, along with evolution ensure that the next gen is totally different from us with shifting goalposts and a better idea of what they want from life. It would be foolish to assume we can impose dreams and goals onto them. Our dreams and desires must either be fulfilled by us or end with us. As simple and brutal as that.
With her years of experience as celebrated principal of Delhi Public School, Dr Shayama Chona, now president, Tamana and author of Effective Parenting, says, “Everything in life is a payback. You give back to your children whatever you hear, see or experience yourself. Parents should really leave them alone to achieve their potential. Do not impact kids with what you want them to be. Understand what they want to achieve and give them the confidence that their parents support them for their desires and goals, rather than for fulfilling their own needs. Indeed families that give more importance to their children’s thoughts and ambitions achieve greater success with their children.”
It is equally important to be sensitive when telling off children or criticising them. One has to understand that the effect of something we may say casually may become a lifelong albatross round the child’s neck. In his desire to please and inborn instinct to meet his parents’ approval, the child may carry the burden of an unfulfilled desire or an unmet dream all life through…
And then he could be a super achiever occupying a most coveted position, and still be thinking, “Hey Dad, I made it! Err, do you agree with me…?”

@bold totally agree with it.Am at a stage in my life facing similar pressures. According to me the only way to come out of it just believing in yourself 100% and go for it and not thinking of the result atleast you get some satisfaction and if don't believe urself its the biggest mistake u make and u will be stuck in something like "Na Ghar ka Na Ghat Ka" neither happy with yourself nor can u abide to others instructions, if ur like me :)

Awesome article.

self discipline

Hmmm... so true but soo difficult to attain.

when you say nothing at all by Ronan Keating

My Favourite song from my favourite movie...

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word, you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing

The smile on your face let's me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

All day long I can hear people talking out loud
But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd
Try as they may they can never define
What's being said between your heart and mine

life is beautiful

Life is beautiful.It is!!!!! despite all the odds and the difficulties you face.It depends on the perspective with which you look at it.The secret is being oneself although its not that easy.